"Dad, why is the sky blue?" "Mom, where is the sun at night?" And suddenly, then, like a bolt from the blue - "Mom, where do babies come from?" This question usually leaves parents squirming with embarrassment and trying to pass the ball to the other parent. Teaching children the facts of life, speaking of the birds and bees, is something that most parents are not very comfortable. Actually, this is a very narrow view of sex education. It is not only embarrassing to have a chat, private with their children or giving them a book or be given a lecture at the school complete with diagrams. Sex does not begin and end with sex. Intercourse can say that the most intimate way in which men and women relate to each other. However, there is only one aspect of the relationship between men and women. In fact, children are learning about sexuality from the time they can tell the difference between boys and girls. They also receive signals from the different ways in which parents relate to children and how parents interact. Thus, children whose parents have a bad marriage will be very difficult to think that sex is based on love and mutual respect.
"Where do babies come from?"
Parents can expect the "dreaded" question of the origin of babies at the age of three. The question stems from natural curiosity. Parents should note that a level of three years of age, understanding is very simplistic. The child is too young to understand the concept of sexuality. The child may be satisfied if the mother says the baby grows into a special place in your body called the uterus or womb and after nine months out. The next question is probably going to be - "How does the baby go?" The only way a child is aware of how things get in is through eating. Therefore, a simple answer that explains that the baby grows from a tiny seed planted in the womb should be sufficient. If children want to know the father's role in the process, mothers can explain that the father put the seed inside the mother. As to how babies out, children can be told that once the baby has grown enough in the mother who leaves a special opening called the vagina. May be a good idea to specify that this opening is different from urination and defecation.
Sex education is something that happens in stages. A three year old could be satisfied if it simply said that the father provides the seed that grows into a baby. However, the time is five, you might want to know exactly how it got there. Once again, parents should remember that it is simple. After all, is only five. Explain that the seeds from the penis of the father and placed in the uterus where the baby will grow over the next nine months.
Some children do not raise the issue at all. The parents of these children assume that their children are particularly innocent. But in all likelihood, the parents of these children have been felt, probably unintentionally, that the question of how babies are made is somehow taboo and not open to discussion. These parents should keep their ears open for indirect questions, hints and tricks which indicate that the child is curious, but afraid to ask a direct question. For example, a child can always make fun of pregnant mother saying she is fat or a girl can ask your mother and her dog had puppies. Parents must realize that their children are shy about asking questions directly and use these opportunities to explain a little about human reproduction.
Some parents prefer fiction to fact when discussing sex with their children. A common euphemism used by parents is that a stork or an angel brought the baby. These stories tend to be counterproductive because the child can see evidence that the baby grows in the womb every day. The children immediately feel that their parents are being evasive on the subject and he is bound to uncover the truth, sooner or later. Parents are in danger of losing their confidence because you are not sure when they might chose to lie or tell half-truths again. Moreover, the question of how babies are made acquires considerable importance highlighted via the nervous and embarrassed parents. Receives the message that the issue is something to be ashamed. Another result of this approach is that the child may hesitate to discuss things that upset with his parents in the future because you are not sure of the answer you get.
